The Health Impact of Anger 

Unchecked anger can lead to high blood pressure, heart issues, sleep disturbances, and a weakened immune system. Similarly, the overwhelming need to control everything can result in both mental and physical fatigue.

Understanding Anger: A Chain Reaction

At its core, anger is a response to certain triggers. The real challenge isn’t the emotion itself but the initial trigger that sets off the chain of reactions: (trigger) -> thought -> anger. By addressing and neutralizing these triggers, we can change our subsequent thoughts and emotional responses. 

The Depths of Anger: From Fear to Desire

Beneath the surface of anger often lies a layer of deep-seated fears. For instance, someone might feel anger when they’re constantly overlooked for promotions at work. This anger could be rooted in a fear of not being valued or recognized. However, deeper than this fear is an unfulfilled desire: like the desire to be acknowledged and to progress in one’s career. Recognizing and addressing both these fears and the underlying desires is key to managing our emotional responses.

Anger: Harnessing Its Power

Rather than being overwhelmed by anger, we can harness its powerful energy. By understanding and addressing the root causes, we can redirect this energy towards positive actions, like seeking feedback, improving skills, or even considering new job opportunities that align with our desires.

Journey from Rage to Peace

I’ve witnessed individuals who once reacted with intense anger remain calm in similar situations later. This transformation is achievable for anyone. With techniques that address the subconscious mind, you can reprogram your reactions, ensuring that what once triggered your anger no longer does. Additionally, there are natural supplements that can further assist in managing anger.

A Hands-On Guide to Transforming Anger into Useful Action

Getting a handle on these fears and desires can be a game-changer in managing anger and hyper-control. Here’s an approach to keep these emotions in check:

1. Spot the Triggers: Start by writing down all the situations that make you angry or cause you to over-control.
2. Dig Up the Fears: Pinpoint the fears lurking beneath these emotions or actions. Ask yourself, what specific fears are driving the need for hyper-control? What fear is behind that sudden burst of anger?
3. Find the Desires: For each fear, find the desire hiding underneath – what’s the outcome you’re really after, the one that’s the exact opposite of that fear?
4. Sort Your Fears:Divide your fears into two distinct categories:
   • Within Your Control: These are fears related to situations you can influence or change. For example, if you’re anxious about an upcoming presentation, you can control your preparation.
   • Beyond Your Control: These fears pertain to situations you cannot alter or influence. An example would be the fear of turbulence when you’re already on a plane.
5. Affirmations: For both types of fears, make a list of affirmations (positive statements). Repeat these affirmations daily over a span of 20-30 days. These affirmations should reinforce the belief that you’ve already got what you want. For instance, if your fear is about not being respected, an affirmation could be “I am valued and respected.”, “Everything happens to my benefit”.
6. Check below the subconscious reprogramming technique that is very helpful in eradicating fears of something that is not within our control.
7. Action Plan for the Controllable: For fears within your control, list out actions that can help you achieve the desires hiding beneath these fears. Remember, acting out of fear can steal your mental and physical energy and worsen your health. Instead, it’s more beneficial to identify and act towards achieving the desires that are masked by the fears. So – not running away from what you are afraid, but going towards what you want.
8. Pick Your Actions: Choose actions that you’re comfortable with and can include into your daily routine. Remember why you’re doing this, what is your end-goal. Here you could also create a list of affirmations to boost your confidence.